“Every wise woman
builds up her household, but the foolish one tears it down with her own hands.”
(Proverbs 14:1)
I am sure you have heard it said many times that if Mama ain’t
happy, no one is! Do you create happy in your home?
It’s been said that the woman sets the tone for the home,
yet all too often we use every bit of energy we possess to be cheerful,
outgoing, and “all together” during our busy days interacting with co-workers,
volunteers, social activities, etc. Or maybe we have experienced a day of
extreme business, tension, conflict, and anxiety. Regardless of the
circumstances, by the time we arrive home we are often exhausted and our good
moods have been wiped out (we may even be a little on the grouchy side!) We
often just need some alone and quiet time; we certainly aren’t in the mood to
fulfill our responsibilities to home and family.
Sound familiar? What’s brewing in your home?
Even though it can be difficult to sustain a joyful and
uplifting atmosphere at home, (and let’s face it, most of us just aren’t
equipped to be a “Martha”!) the attitudes we walk into the door with and the
simple things we do, set the mood in our homes. Wouldn’t we all like to be the perfect model of the
Proverbs 31 Woman, better known to some as a woman of noble character?
I
can just imagine my day going like this…
“She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue."
(31:26)
“Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he
praises her.” (31:28)
“She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to
come.” (31:25)
How would our lives and the lives of our families be
different if we took greater care with our attitudes when we enter our homes?
If we valued our time spent with them every bit as much as the time we spend
encouraging and working with others? Our homes and our families are one of the
most sacred places; a place where our language should be full of wisdom and
kindness, support and praise. It’s a place where our husbands and our children
can look to us for encouragement, trust, understanding, and diligence.
Is that what is brewing in your home?
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it
is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not
easily angered, it keeps no records of wrongs. It always protects, always
trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." (I Corinthians 13:4,5,7)
Sometimes we just have to ask ourselves what (or maybe who)
is so important that it would keep us from wanting to brew happiness and
encouragement to our family? When we love, respect, and lift up our husbands
and children as the Bible instructs us in 1 Corinthians 13, we are fulfilling
not only the greatest need in their lives, but also ours to unite us into one. Being a wife and mother is a high
calling and it bears eternal value; we should embrace this role that God has
assigned to us. There are always going
to be times when we just want to lock ourselves in the bathroom just for a
moment of sanity and quiet, but if we haven’t taken the time to serve and share
ourselves with our loved ones; if our homes aren’t a place of peace, love, and
joy, then we are not fulfilling our God given purpose. What we brew in our
homes should be mixed with love, honor and respect and we should embrace (and
sing praises!) all of our work with joy , with purpose, and with value.
I am
thankful to be guest posting this week at Tracy’s (a beautiful friend and
sister in Christ!) on “Encourage 24/7”
Denise, thank you for sharing. Since it is just me and two birds, I treat them as my own children. Kind and loving. Hugs my friend.
ReplyDeleteMy dog is a huge part of our family too Grace; love and hugs to you too! :)
DeleteA beautiful post! Whenever I am brewing something other than love and joy in my home, I know that I need to take a small break. I need to be to myself in prayer, praise and The Word. Lifting the Lord lifts me, allowing me to lift my family. I'm giving thanks to my family and the folks in my life! Thank you, Denise!
ReplyDeleteThat's always the perfect solution; we have to take it to the Lord! Amen Cynthia! :)
DeleteI really needed this one today. I've been a little edgy and not very happy and it shows in my family. Thank you for sharing your heart in this matter!
ReplyDeleteHappens to me too my friend; thankful for God moving in at times like these! Sweet blessings Barbie~
DeleteThanks for such a timely post...yes, what is brewing in my house..and yes, I do set the tone. Thanks for encouraging me to be careful what tone I am setting.
ReplyDeleteOh yes we do, don't we? :) Thanks Janette; blessings!
DeleteThanks for the reminder!
ReplyDeleteThanks for visiting; blessings!
DeleteIsn't that the truth..that we women set the tone/atmosphere in the home. My children have grown and have moved away and it is just my hubby and I now. It is so easy to be coming home from work and thinking oh how tired I am..If I'm not careful, I take that defeated attitude inside with me. I have to consciously let go of my woes by placing them on a bush outside my porch before I walk in. A counselor friend told me that trick once and it really helped. When I leave to go back to work, I can pick my concerns and woes back up if I want.
ReplyDelete♥Lee Ann
So true LeeAnn; I agree! Leave our problems at the door of work/home...hopefully we don't pick them back up! :) Blessings sweet friend!
DeleteThank you Denise, for this great posting. Our tone makes the music.
ReplyDeleteYes it does Jedidja; love that! Blessings and love sweet friend!
DeleteBad attitudes have a way of spreading. A great reminder to keep ours in check. Have a great week Denise.
ReplyDeleteThanks Wanda; hope your week is great too friend! :)
DeleteHi Denise,
ReplyDeleteThis post is full of truth, my friend!
God has entrusted us women with a very important roll as homemakers...(working women are also homemakers) Whatever we do for our family and home, and even our pets are ways in which we minister to them, and fulfill their needs. But if we neglect to care for ourselves, we will not be of much use to anyone else!
~Blessings and ((hugs))~ Lisa
Yup; even our pets can sense our attitudes-ha! And so true; our good attitudes must begin deep down in our hearts first. :) Blessings and hugs to you too Lisa!
DeleteHi Denise, I know this to be true, if I'm off, so ie everyone else. Sigh, such pressure! :) But then again, when we get it right what a great reward right! God bless my friend. You are very special to me <3
ReplyDeleteTracy
How true Tracy; pressure especially when we don't quite feel up to it-ha! It is a reward when we succeed!! You are a special lady to me too... :) :)
DeleteDenise, you certainly speak truth! It seems as if my bad attitude is like a disease... it can be highly contagious! As wives and mothers, we wield so much God-ordained influence. It's a serious calling with incredible rewards... certainly not easy, but always worth it! Thanks for sharing this!
ReplyDeleteBlessings to you ~ Mary
Amen Mary; it is a serious calling, and always worth it! Blessings!
DeleteHi Denise,
ReplyDeleteAs a man, it is such a blessing to me when my wife if full of joy.
Blessings,
Ken
Agreed Ken; we should be joyful and full of love and thankfulness in our relationships! :)
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